Learning that giving has nothing to do with what you receive
is a valuable lesson. So many times in
our lives, we have taken steps to change who we are based on how we are treated
from others. This comes from the
foundation of lives with our upbringing, to the friends who have trusted us in
their lives, and lastly from relationships we have engaged in. We continue to mold ourselves based the on
the expectations of what has not worked for us in the past, to a better and
more prosperous future. During this
venture, we often step so far off the path of trying to make everyone else
happy around us; we ultimately forget to make ourselves happy first. At what expense do you lose yourself? I would challenge each of you to think of
three things that truly make you smile. Whether it is the smell of rain, seeing
a rainbow on your drive to work, feeling the ocean in-between your toes, or if
it is simply lying in your bed at the end of the day and feeling your body sink
into a deep relaxation. Centering your
energy is not only a positive approach to life, but a gentle and natural
reminder that we control all around us.
If you remain positive thru trials and tribulations, you are
surrendering yourself and are open to positive energy and drawing the expected
results back to you. Try not to focus on
an end result, but stay engaged in the active life in the present. Therefore you are able to enjoy every second
of it. Often, while coaching people
during running, they look forward and can only think about how far it is to the
destination they are seeking. I always
remind them, look three steps in front of your toes. This is important, because
accomplishing three steps at a time is a much easier task then the ten thousand
you are going to take to complete five miles, or the fifty-five thousand steps
it would take for you to finish a marathon.
As I said stay focused on the task at hand and you will always succeed
in accomplishing your goals. When you
apply this method to your life, you are able to assess a situation clearly and
you never get to ahead of yourself or your goals. This is an easy application to any short or
long term goal you may have. You can
apply it to weight loss, career moves, or relationships. The result of focusing too far ahead in any
situation creates an expectation of what we should get from this particular
goal. If I set a 10 pound weight loss as
a total amount to lose, I get frustrated when I am only at a 3 pound weight
loss. I have lost the positive
accomplishment of the 3 pounds that I was able to shed. I have looked too
forward into the future. Once you
associate a negative association to your accomplishment, your 3 steps now
become a negative connotation and you tend to not enjoy it as much. This is the same for relationships. Our culture wants everything right now! We plan ahead and when we find someone we
care about, we give our all, and expect the same in return. We let ourselves fall for the other person,
when in actuality we haven’t considered that they might not feel the same way. We rushed past the 3 steps and are looking at
the 5th mile. I understand
why we do this, and it is because the end result is a positive feeling and
ultimately it makes us feel good to feel love or to feel good about our
bodies. The point I am making is
understand that everything does not come at the moment you need it to
come. Everything that is worth having
taken time to accomplish. To become a
happier and better you takes knowing and loving yourself. Setting realistic
goals, and celebrating each 3 steps you have taken. Do not rush your goals, and do not let others
do it for you. Surround yourself with people that make you smile and hold onto
your values. The more you honor yourself
the better you with feel about yourself and those you love. Accept the good! Know that even though
something is not perfect, not to push it away, and when good things happen, let it
in. Imagine the best and know imagining getting what you want is a big part of
achieving it. As I said earlier, find the things you love, and find your
purpose. Fulfill your soul, because if you are fulfilled, then you will attract
people who want to enhance you and not change you. Listen to your heart as you are the only one
who truly understands what will make you happy. Push yourself and not others.
You are in charge of your own happiness and once you stop blaming others for
your disappointments, you will soon find your answers. Lastly, be open to
change, share yourself emotionally, and bask in the simple pleasures of
life. When you are confronted with drama
or situations that do not develop you positively, confront the issue, turn your
back, and let it watch you walk away.
The sooner we understand that happiness and fulfillment are within your
grasp, but sometimes out of our reach, is truly understand what works best for
you and is the first step in finding it.
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