Last night I attended a wedding of a friend’s friend. I had
no intention going to a wedding, and diffidently was not dressed for this type
of event. Wearing yoga pants, chucks, and a trademark scarf I decided what the
hell, it might be fun. When I walked in,
the DJ was playing Disney instrumentals, and my friend explained that groom had
proposed at Disneyland when the fireworks exploded. Having been to Disneyland I imagined what a
memorable night that must have been for these two. The groom was an average looking man, and the
bride was a petite beautiful woman. She
recently had tried out to be a raiderette for the Oakland raiders sometime last
year. In less than 10 months, her world
had turned around. I was told that
sometime this last year, the bride and a lot of her friends had gone out. She had a crush on a co-worker and he would
not pay her any attention. But shortly
after she had met her soon to be husband.
The couple hit it off, and now tonight they were sealing their fate with
her finalizing her vows stating you are my lover, my best friend, my soul mate.
Seeing how pretty she was I thought,
what the hell was wrong with the guy who blew her off? I just was amazed. Having been married
myself, nothing scares me more than the idea of getting married again, and when
asked by people if I would get married again, I often say no, but sitting in
this wedding made me yearn for that feeling again with someone.
As I watched this woman who looked so beautiful walk down
the aisle to her enamored husband, I thought to myself, wow this was a quick
relationship. In my past, I have talked
to people for more than a year and nothing arose out of it, and here they are
getting married and getting ready to spend the rest of their lives together
after a short 10 months. And let’s say the person you love isn’t close
to you. Well I have met couples who have
had long distant relationships going strong after 4 years. What this unfolded
to me is that it’s not the circumstance you are in, it simply is the
person. I have always heard one person
will always love the other more than one.
But I think when you meet that special person; there is nothing that
slows down the process of love. Why would you settle for a love you have to
chase, when you could have a love that wants you more and more each day.
One thing I have worked on in the past 2 years of singleism
is being patient. I no longer fret if I don’t
hear from someone, as I know if it was truly the time, I would not be waiting,
they would be pursuing me. In this holiday season, I think it is important to
really look at what matters to you.
There are a lot of us singles out there and really because you haven’t met
the one doesn’t mean they are not out there, you simply aren’t ready to pursue
something that you really are not ready for. We all want to be loved, feel loved,
and have that physical connection with someone; it’s what drives us out of the
arms of someone we truly want to be with and into the arms of someone else at
times. If we are not finding what we are
looking for in one person, we look elsewhere. This could be because of
personality differences, different places in life or simply distance. The
important thing to remember is you are not alone. Many of us are still looking
for that special person to share our lives with. All the in-between is just life’s
lessons.
I am thankful for my lessons I have had thus far. I am a
better person for them personally and professionally. And after seeing such a
beautiful event full of love I can’t wait to share that with someone one day.
Until then, I am going to be thankful for all I have right now. My life, my
children, and my career. Those are not going anywhere, and they are what I make
of it. I will continue to keep my
standards high and leave those behind that leave no benefit to my life. Merry
Christmas and a Happy New Year to you’s and yours..
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